Can casual Fridays exist? Lessons from my 40th birthday

Almost every other path is easier to embark on than the path of your best destiny—and yet your destiny will be the devil of every other path you take, until you choose IT. For me, by the way,  running Write2Market is definitely work, and many days, I’m really honestly tired by the end of the day, or the week.

I’m aware I have choices about this though, and most days, if I think about it for a split second, I consciously choose—often with a smile—the work. It’s a calling, it’s a duty, and it’s a sacred joy to me.

In theory, this sounds simple. The reality can be a bit more challenging. For example, for my fortieth birthday, I decided to give myself Fridays off—meaning on Friday, I could do anything I wanted to do.  I had visions of mornings spent running, or writing all afternoon, maybe learning something new like how to make wine…. Nah, none of that happens. So far, on Fridays, I’ve done a number of things—attended investor conferences, done advisory/coaching sessions with younger entrepreneurs, gone to great media briefings, spoken to small groups on how to tell your story better—and so each and every one of these “free days” has looked a lot like the Thursday before. Am I nuts?

The fact is, when I look at what I want to do with my Friday, and look at my choices for my “free day,” I realize all days are free, and all choices open. I get to work on the opportunity to build a better story machine. It happens every day, not just every Friday.

It’s not just me. Perhaps you’ve encountered Tim Farris, author of The Four Hour Work Week. Tim is passionate about freeing yourself from tedium to be more of who you are. But if you ask Tim about his weekly schedule, it’s more like 64 hours—not 4. He knows how to do it, but he wants to do so much more.

A good life can be had in infinite numbers of ways, then, and one of them, in the path of choosing to rule your own corner of the universe—one you create and care for.

You don’t always know your own kingdom, just like I didn’t know I would be an entrepreneur. It was simply the only way to do what I wanted to do. And no matter how I try to mess it up, it keeps on being one magnificent journey.

Is it that way for you?